Little Things
If I listen closely, I can hear an orchestra of a million small raindrops falling on the leaves of the deep green forest behind me. A small drizzle makes a huge impact when multiplied.
These forests are rejuvenated with tens of thousands of massive trees, reaching into the sky, too high for me to reach and certainly to climb, yet our ancestors here had cleared these forests just a hundred years before.
Small seeds falling in big winds replanted over a million bare acres of beauty, now preserved forever wild in this Adirondack park.
Little Can Be Big
Whether seedlings, small winds, or tiny droplets, small things can make a big difference. A giant ship in a hurricane-force wind among huge waves can change course to a new direction with a captain’s slight touch on a small wheel controlling the rudder. A small board can lift a large load with a fulcrum in the right place. A large load is lifted by a small pulley system. Huge forest fires are started by small sparks.
Where in your life have small things made a big impact?
For me, small words motivated massive action, resulting in a lifetime career.
When I asked my 14-year-old self what I wanted to do with my life, my answer was radio. But my aunt told me radio people are bad: “You don’t want to be a part of that industry. Radio people are evil.” But I wanted to be on the radio, and, knowing I’m not bad and I’m not going to be evil, her words made me mad and determined to prove her wrong. The result was a long, fruitful (and still ongoing) career in and around radio. And when I saw bad practices in radio, I set out to change them. For instance, women were treated horribly, sexually harassed by clients and management, so I used my magazine to raise awareness, do articles, create awards and lists, and over 30-plus years have had
Positive or Negative?
Words are small, seemingly innocent things, yet one frequently repeated statement from my dad — “You can do anything you set your mind to” — built my internal confidence. Though no one else, it seemed, believed in me, my parents’ constant encouragement launched me.
What small words of yours are having a big impact?
You and I have choices. Our words can be encouraging or discouraging.
I had no idea.
A few years ago I received a call from a man I barely remembered. He said, “One night over dinner you told me, ‘You are really smart, and you’ll own your own radio stations one day.’ I did not believe it at the time, but those words echoed in my head. No one else ever believed in me. You did, and that small spark encouraged me. I ended up owning one, then two, and now several radio stations.”
“The tongue can no man tame; it is a restless evil, filled with deadly poison.”
— James 3:8
“So the tongue is also little, it can boast great things.”
— James 3:5
What if we all watched our tongue? What if we held back the temptation to lash out and spew negativity, and instead projected encouragement and belief in others?
We would change the world.
Your small, seemingly innocent words can have an impact. Words can ring in our thoughts for decades. They can set us on fire or burn us at the stake.
How will you use your words today?
Eric Rhoads
PS:
This week I’m hosting just under 90 people at my Fall Color Week artist retreat. We’re having a blast and wish you were here. (Next retreat is my Publisher’s Invitational in June.)
I’m really excited about our next virtual art conference, Realism Live, which I’m hosting in November with the world’s finest artists as instructors, teaching figures, portraits, still life, landscape painting, and more. There’s even a Beginner’s Day. Check it out before registration bonuses disappear.
Thank goodness for your words !!!
We miss your Dad who was so thoughtful, so much fun and always so inspiring, not only with his words but also his beautiful photographic artwork! We know that he inspired you and was so proud of you, your wife and all his grandchildren. All our friends and our grandchildren who met him remember the stories he shared. We so enjoy Sunday Coffee with you and look forward to sharing some special time every week with you.
Thank for your incredible insights! Words are powerful as a minister/ retired preacher I quickly understood the unique power and essence of words. I also understand the longevity of words, there staying power on our mind/ psychological make up, which can translate into the healing of the Soul and love. The essence of one’s life. Thank you so much. Be Blessed!
Great message. I love the way you describe the world around you and always enjoy your Sunday coffee.
This is profound and encouraging . I’m just starting Plein Aire after drawing and painting pretty much of my life . Art is so important to me . I didn’t study art in college . I became a special Ed teacher and used art with my students . I’m really enjoying learning new techniques and procedures . I look forwarding to attending a Plein Aire event with Eric . His words resonate with me !
Some 30ish years ago when I was in college and taking art classes I was searching for myself. I had always been creative, drawing cartoons and small projects, but I wound up focusing on music all through high school. Despite my musical ability, but didn’t want to pursue that as a career, and art seemed a viable next option. But while In classes, I started questioning my own abilities. I saw students around me doing much better work and felt inadequate comparatively. I went to see my student advisor with my concerns and was told that I’d need to be in the top 10% of ability in order to make it as an artist. When I said that I didn’t feel that could do that based upon what I was seeing, I was advised that maybe I should choose something else. I felt a little crushed and even more discouraged. Had the advisor merely encouraged me to continue, put in the hours and practice needed to improve, perhaps I wouldn’t have dropped my whole semester of art classes.
It was a complete missed opportunity for that advisor to say something positive and keep me on track, give me some helpful hints, or anything that would have kept that spark alive for it to grow into a flame.
It wasn’t meant to be mean. it was delivered nicely, but the 19yr old me heard “Yeah, maybe you do suck and you can’t do this.”
A seemingly innocuous string of words have impact, and had that advisor only put some thought in those words it could have sparked positivity rather than negativity.
30 years it’s easy to see the folly of her and my actions at the time. Now I paint and draw as a hobby and to relax. And if I want to make it into something more, I can look at myself in the mirror and tell myself, You CAN do anything you put your mind and heart to.
Thank you for all of your words Eric! I look forward to reading them every Sunday as they always encourage me!
While going to art school in L.A., there were many students who would not talk to me, because of their attitude: “THEY were going to this GREAT art School”! At the same time, I had a little voice inside, that figured I really didn’t have to try that hard, while painting, cause heck, I was “pretty good, and going to this great school.” Then one day during head painting, my instructor Reynold Brown leaned over my shoulder and whispered “I wish I could plug you into a wall, and you would WORK.” I was so ashamed of this “hidden attitude”, that the 2nd head study I did, was 100 time better than the first! Why? Merely a change of attitude. And 45 years later, I carry those words deep inside me: “Always do the BEST you can.”
Thanks, Eric for your inspirational talks. People sometimes don’t think how their words can have an effect on children and young people as you say.
I was 15 years old and my grandmother had just passed away and My mother said “Your grandmother was the only one who thought you would make something of yourself” I know now she meant it to be positive but I took it negative. No one believes in me! It sometimes takes a long time to overcome those negative things people say. It took a while but I became a registered nurse at 50 years old and raised two wonderful successful children and I am now a selling artist. I am careful with my words around my grandchildren and great-grandchildren. Well, I am careful with my words to all. Thanks again. I look forward to your Sunday talks.
Thank you Eric. Our local pastor quoted Jame regarding the tongue a couple weeks ago. Thank you for reminding me and for encouraging everyone. When you get the chance, watch the decade old movie, Parental Guidance with Bette Midler and Billy Crystal and how the term, use your words, became an amusingly helpful saying for quote, the other grandparents, unquote. God bless you and yours there in the Adirondack and safe travels for all heading home and may everyone enjoy the scenery on those detours ahead.
Your comments today rang loud and clear to me. I believe, I believe!! I decided a long time ago that there were both negative and positive people. Negative people use that whip to make them feel bigger and better, yet to others they look smaller, injured. Positive people exude strength along a path, I chose to follow. It has served me well. I have picked the weeds out of my garden and gathered a wide variety of flowers, sticks and seeds that continually blossom and grow! They are the givers, not takers. Thank you for your gift of words of encouragement, Eric, and the continual work you share. Happy Sunday!
Beautifully stated Andrea…as much, as what Eric shared here! You also have a blessed life!
Sounds like you also have a flower garden! I know of sticks and stones…and DEEP rooted weeds…finally coming to the end of them…and about 50 bags of weeds to the dump! Now waiting for the first cold snap, to get the wildflower, cosmos, foxglove and other seeds scattered for next year’s Spring!
When I was in grammar school a piece of my art work was picked to hang in a ‘Clothesline” children’s art show at Saks Fifth Avenue. Needless to say I was “over the moon”. My happiness bubble was popped when my mother told me, “the only reason your painting was chosen was because the art teacher liked you and me”. OMG And, my parents told me art classes where only “filler classes” for students who were not smart. It took me 60 some years to have the courage to pick up a brush again, and I went on to become President of the Watercolor Art Society- Houston. Words matter.
Your words of wisdom inspire me! Every Sunday I look forward to having coffee with you ☺️🙏