A bright pink salmon-colored sky is glowing, with the black lace of pine trees silhouetted against its brilliant color. The lake is mirroring the sky, not a ripple in sight. The silence is beyond any level of quiet I’ve ever experienced. This is the true definition of peaceful.
In the late 1800s, the Hudson River School painters were criticized for their brilliant sunrise and sunset paintings because the coal-smoke-filled skies of New York made such skies unbelievable. Yet, as I sit here on the dock of my Adirondack home, I’m a witness to confirm such brilliance exists here in this 6-million-acre protected park. The air is so pure I find myself taking deep breaths more frequently.
A Boat Ride Away
Just minutes from now, after coffee on the dock, I’ll put on my jacket and put the first ripples on the glass-like lake as I make my way across to a small, winding river through the weeds and woods to the next lake over, where I’ll pull up to the dock at Paul Smith’s College. That’s where I’m hosting my 11th annual artist retreat I call the Publisher’s Invitational. I’m hosting about 100 plein air painters, who will paint the incredible scenery here for a week.
No More Invitation Required
I started this event after some painters told me they rarely get a chance to simply paint side by side because most events involve a sale and competition. My event used to be invitation-only till the demand to attend made it clear invitations would no longer need to be issued. Now anyone who wants to come can come. (Quietly, I do an actual “invitational” with a small group of high-level painters at a different time in the summer.)
At the beginning of the year, when I was rethinking my priorities, I came to some conclusions about my personal operating system. My priorities have changed since I’ve seen so many good people disappear in the last couple of years. Because I get lots of questions about how I have such energy and how I manage to accomplish so much, I thought I’d share this.
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- Spiritual health
If my walk with God isn’t strong, then everything else is out of balance. I make a point to read my Bible every morning before I open any email or social media. I spend time in prayer many times daily. It’s not about earning favor (which isn’t possible), it’s about praise and thanksgiving. - Health trumps everything
My goal is to optimize health, keep my immune system strong, maintain high standards of mobility, and keep my energy high. This includes walking fast, interval and weight training most days, supplemented by daily walks (up here the woods make for amazing walks). I study nutritional and longevity trends, take lots of the latest supplements (including NMN, which is revolutionary), and I get my blood tested at least four times a year. I maintain a mostly vegan diet along with some fish, and I try to live as stress-free as possible. - Mindset makes a huge difference
Friends my age and younger are winding down. I’m winding up. I’m just getting good at the things that have taken me a lifetime to learn, I don’t want to stop now. I want to see what’s possible. My friend John Kluge, who became the richest man in the world, told me, “I did not really figure things out till I was 65 or 70. When my friends were retiring, I was just getting started. Keep pitching. Never stop pitching.” I carefully guard my self-talk, and I realize that I have more to give, so I don’t ever want to tell myself there are limitations or restrictions. - Family and friends matter most
I take more time for my family than ever, realizing that my kids are growing up and leaving home. I have lessons I need to teach them, and they have lessons to teach me. I’m trying to invest in my family more deeply and let them know they are loved.
I’m also investing more time in friendships. I’ve had too many recent instances where my last phone call or visit with someone was the last time I’d ever be able to visit with them. - Help others
What can I do to make life better for others? What kinds of experiences can I give them that may become lifetime memories? How can I use what I’ve learned and earned to help others? How can I coach others? How can I help others live a better life? - Live for experiences and play
Life boils down to special moments and memories, most of which are created. My goal is to live as richly as possible by creating experiences and moments for my family, myself, and others. I want to travel more and take others along on the experiences. I want to play more, spend more time on the things I love, and experiment more with new things (for instance, I’m teaching myself 3D design and printing, I’m learning other mediums like pastel, watercolor, and gouache, and I’ve been doing woodworking, building my own new easel design).
- Challenge myself
Unchallenged people become dull and lifeless. I want to be curious, set no limits on what is possible, and push myself to accomplish great things. It’s not about money (though that’s often a measurement device), it’s about doing what cannot be done, inventing what can’t be invented, creating what can’t be created.- Be a nice guy no matter what
I self-identify as a nice guy. My goal is to listen better, get to know others at a deeper level, be truly interested, and to be a nice guy. I can’t say I’ve always lived up to this, but I’m trying harder than ever. I want to be nice under pressure. I want to be the person I’d want to meet, someone who cares deeply about others and their stories.
- Life is about learning
I’m eager to learn. I want to be better at the things I know, I want to learn about things I don’t know, and I want to discover things from others that can make me a better and more interesting person. I try to read daily, I take courses online (I just got certified in NLP, for instance, and I’ve been learning self-hypnosis), and I’m seeking things outside my lane to keep my life interesting. - Finish well
My dad finished well. He lived to 92 and died in his own home, and had a lot of people who loved him for who he was, not what he had. His life, family, friendships, interests, and relationship with God were rich up until the end. Upon his passing I heard stories from others of his friendships, where he went out of his way to make others feel special, to help others in need. He never talked about it. I don’t like to talk about what or where I give, who I help, or everything I’m up to. Some things are best executed silently.
- Spiritual health
Have you ever created your own personal operating system?
Don’t copy mine, come up with your own. Chances are you have it in your head. Put it in writing — it provides clarity and acts as a reminder that life is far from over.
Eric Rhoads
PS: Today is our first day of painting at my event. I’m excited to paint with everyone and start catching up or getting to know them.
Speaking of experiences, I’ve just made our reservations to fly to New Zealand. I’m taking 50 to paint and tour, and I think we’ve got a few seats left, though if you want to go, we need you to book soon so you can book your flights. You can learn more at www.paintingnewzealand.com.
My next artist retreat is in October in Maine, and it’s almost already sold out. I think there are a handful of seats left (we have limits on how many rooms we can get). www.fallcolorweek.com
PS2: Love pastel? Last August when I held Pastel Live online, I got inspired and started painting in pastel. I picked up lots of ideas from top artists at that event and I’m loving the qualities I can get from pastel that I can’t get from other mediums, including high, vibrating color. I’m very excited and committed to pastel and am pleased to announce that we just launched a new, three-times-a-week pastel newsletter with Editor Gail Sibley. You can get it free by going to https://pasteltoday.com/newsletter/. Check it out.
needed to read your message today….amazing
Thank you for sharing! It is refreshing to hear about others having faith in God and the richness that provides in one’s life. No wonder I watch your videos. I look forward to Realism Today – 2023 starting next week!
Hello Eric, We have never met, but we both have many years involved in the “plein air” experience.
I have spent several years thinking about contacting you, and realizing your high level of integrity and professionalism, I hope you might find the time to allow me to enter the world of fine arts that you are so deeply involved in.
Actually, looking at my records, I DID email you in January 2021…! And there also I wrote:
I do believe we are HERE to help one another on our journeys to discovery! Hum, so here I am again! Maybe I will hear back from you!
This format, that I’m contacting you at this moment, is far from the level that I would like to be involved in, making my presentation to you.
I hope you might contact me, and suggest a better time, and method of sharing what we both have in common in the Fine Art Field.
Sincerely, Elizabeth Jean Billups
What a blessing to read your testimony. I always enjoy your posts. Love the way you put words together. And, love the fact that you are a Christian and not afraid to let it be known. May God bless you mightily and grant the desires of your heart.
Erik,
This is one of your most valuable letters I have read. I enjoy all of them , but this is so special . I will be 80 in six months and I want to keep my enthusiasm for growth and learning. I taught art for many years, but with severe hearing loss and now a cochlear implant; it is just too challenging in groups. Painting is still my therapy , and giving art to local charities has been so rewarding to see money being made to help.
Thank you for all you do in the art world and reminding us of things we can do to make life around us more positive , kind and compassionate.
I’m with you on most all of these, Eric! Number 2 is difficult from past injuries and broken bones, but I’m working on it!
I love learning and challenging myself. I recently read a survey online where someone was asking “ what is the worst man-made thing ever invented?”, the most popular answer was work!!! I found that hard to believe and discouraging… they didn’t say a job. I don’t know what I’d do if I couldn’t keep exploring and making things everyday! … Organizing, finding ways to be efficient, helping others, being aware.
Keep shining a light out there!!! And take care. I am continually impressed with the legacy your father left you!!! His wisdom, love and light lives on through you! What a difference one life can make!! You are richly blessed.
It is good to get to know you better, Eric. Thank you for sharing your personal secrets. However, living those “secrets”, makes them alive for any and all to view. Continued blessings is my prayer for you.
Thank you so much for this encouragement.
This reading is excellent and inspiring. Thank you for your generosity and your additional gift of words.
Thanks, I need this.
THANK you Eric!! Your words of wisdom are respected and welcomed!! Effecting the lives of numerous artists, surely beyond what you can imagine!! Thank you for taking time out of your busy schedule to SHARE!
While many of us think we already know these tenets as the proper ones to embrace for a good life, it’s not until we see them written down the way you have done so that they really make sense. I wanted to say that some of the tenets are more important than others, but, actually, each is of equally import. You need them all!
WOW!!! Such wise words this morning – love your outlook on life :). As a senior, I feel a lot like you – there’s so much more I want to do yet – but can’t find anyone to adventure with! So hoping I can swing one of your art retreats next year! I recently had up close & personal tickets to Celtic Thunder – the gal who was going to go w/ me backed out – couldn’t find anyone who was interested so flushed the tickets somewhere in a tech vortex out in space. I didn’t give up until the last minute. It’s so frustrating that many of my acquaintances enjoy their recliner more than shaking a leg! I also like to dabble in various mediums, try new things. You don’t have to spend a fortune to experience the true beauty of life – just get creative and ideas will flow from the soul ~
Eric, you have set a high standard that makes life so much more meaningful. Thank you for sharing your lifestyle with us. I will try to make some changes that embrace some of the lifestyles that you have chosen. I do try to live a somewhat healthy life, but have been lost in the spiritual side of my life. I keep trying to find my way.
I’m a better jeweler than a painter. But, I spend my winters in Florida. I can’t haul all of the tools, torches that are required in jewelry. Sarasota has a great plein aire group. I hope to have more courage to partake in their weekly outings
Your writing and operational life process are quite inspirational and one i can relate to . In my business life i often come into contact with its polar opposite in individuals whose only vision of value are advantage over others and control of their small minded world. Interestingly they are very poor in spirit and most often equally poor and grasping in their economic and social lives. Currently doing a 50 million dollar deal funding and building a long term care hospital targeted toward providing for those who cannot go anywhere else due often to a lack of economic resources.
the participants invariably look beyond economics and focus on creating a experience suitable to life. the hospital will be full of art of all kinds.
Eric, This is truly inspirational…great food for thought…beautifully written! THANK YOU for penning this and sharing! Many blessings on your continued journey and all those you serve and share the journey with.
I have thoroughly enjoyed your Sunday Coffee posts and this one is so very affirming. I live in Maine near Acadia and have been considering attending the Fall Color Week. I’m glad it’s been so popular this early but I’m a little sad, as I’m unable to commit yet due to obligations to my parents and financial considerations—got hit with a hefty tax bill after selling a building from a closed business—so we’ll see. Thank you for these thoughtful pieces—this one came at just the right time.
Hi Eric,
I’m new here. I just wanted to thank you for writing such a inspirational piece. You sound like an amazing person. Thank you for sharing.
🌼Vicki
Eric, I just want to take a few minutes to say thank you. Thank you for reaching out to the painting community. Thank you for the wonderful conventions. I’ve been able to make a few of them, including the very first in Las Vegas. Remember, we painted in a snow storm, who would have believed that would happen. There is so much more I would love to do, and will do if health and finances become able. I think what you do is very needed, as we as artists work independently most of the time. I thank you for being open about your faith and a need for God’s blessings in our lives. I know God sees your heart and your desire to help others, and he has blessed you and your business because of that. Keep on, keeping on.
Today’s Coffee Email was the absolute best ever! Thank you so much for sharing so much of your soul w/ us! You just wow me every week with your words. Now I know I’m coming to a retreat someday, so wanted to do the New Zealand, but that would be a fairy tale for me (my furnace just went out and has to be replaced). You have your head on straight and priorities are in order: God is No 1 every day of my life too. I don’t pray as much as you, but I feel like I’m talking to the Lord all day long. And your entire operating system is spot on. I wish you wrote these daily, but Sunday Coffee is a treat I look forward too. Keep ’em coming!
I love your communications. I never pass them up, and I admire your spirit and the love your have for your family. Best wishes for a long and happy life.
Just a thought Eric; wouldn’t the world be a wonderful place if countries didn’t have to depend on preparation for defense & war to fuel their own economies? And isn’t it a fact that the poorer a country is the more likely it is that they have higher birth rates; that can’t be adequately provided for? Truth & trust have seemingly fallen on the barren ground & deaf ears. I really appreciate your column & wish you the continued success you so richly deserve.
Eric, I am a bit tipsy right now, but I will get through this because I want to let you know I admire your resilience and dedication to artists of the world.
My dream, or rather on my bucket list is my desire to join at least one of your watercolour tours, wherever it is, whenever I can do it.
I admire your forthrightness. Ask and it is Given. I am asking and expect to receive all that I need to get me to one of your amazingly talented watercolour painters. I’m feeling it right now. I am there with love and gratitude.
Getting over the dreadful Covid – and Spring is here – trees are greening (I live in cityfied London)
And soon the useless lot who govern us ‘might’ work out how to end a war (don’t hold yer breath)
Meanwhile (as my second world war generation used to say) “don’t let the bugrs get you down”
Very good… as usual 🙂
Thank you for sharing your Sunday Coffee e-mails with so many Eric. Hearing what you experience in your daily life adventures is heartwarming and what you live by in life is inspirational. I so look forward to Sunday Coffee with you. Keep these e-mails coming for as I read through the comments, it delights so many to look forward to what comes next. You are truly a wonderful human being and thank you for motivating and inspiring so many. It has become a personal friendship for me always something to look forward to in these trying times. I could go on and on about your other adventures provided us through daily Streamline Art Videos as well as my favorite magazines in which you publish but that is for another time to speak of. I must make it one of my top priorities to come to attend an outdoor workshop. Thank you and God’s blessings . . .
Jan
Dera Eric,
esThank you so much for encouraging words each week. I always make time to read your comments. You seem to have a myriad of talents but you also have work ethic like know one else that develop the talents. I know it is the Lord that keeps you going through the hard times as well as the Good times. I feel so blessed to have Him in my life too.
Keep up the good work you do. I do have a secret wish that I could attend one of your groups and get to meet you in person. At my age 90 it doesn’t seem possible that I could save up enough to do so. But, I know the God of miracles and nothing is too hard for Him.
God Bless you and your family,
Rosie
I love to read your Sunday inspirations, Eric! I recently retired from a teaching career, and I just want to keep living, growing, learning, and loving BIG! Thanks for the validation!
Hi Eric! I just want to say thank you very much for this post and your witness about your faith in God. This means so much for me and surely for many many others as well. Well we cant thank you enough for what you do for the art comunity as a whole but I do thank God for you and your team. May He continue to bless you and your family richly! From Centurion, South Africa. Please pray for this country as well.
Blessings
Johan
Good Morning Eric. Have a wonderful week of inspiring guidance sharing your ART of living with your guests. May the sound of loons calling to one another over still waters be a balm for your soul. Thank you so much for your ripples of wisdom. You make perfect sense. Kind regards Keith
Thanks. I appreciate your spiritual emails. Good to reset priorities and recognize the important things in life.
Hi Eric. I’m really enjoying your “Sunday Morning Coffee” column. It’s insightful and poetic. We’re you a pastor in another life? Thank you for sharing your heart!
Thank you for sharing Eric, you are an amazing inspiration. David in Canada
Thanks for sharing these thoughtful comments. I taught university English classes for many years. Your list, possibly (but not necessarily) shortened, should be made available to all first-year students during orientation.
Thank you for sharing your insights and MO. Not to sound stupid, but you mention NMN and NLP. What doe those acronyms stand for?
I enjoy reading your Sunday letters. You have a wonderful outlook on life. I am sure your father was a great influence on you. I hope to one day go to one of your conferences. I only started painting a year and half ago after 40 years of teaching. I look forward to meeting you and others Artists when I am ready.
Thanks for sharing, Suzanne
Good morning, Eric,
I love your operating system and have a very similar one. Maintaining balance is also a helpful tool in the box and also a great indicator of places for change. Flexibility is a great attribute in one’s life there are times to be the palm tree in a hurricane and an oak for providing shade and respite at another time. I appreciate your Sunday coffee posts and have learned a great deal that has helped me grow in better ways. I surely hope you put this all in a book because the wisdom is timeless capable of echoing across time to some weary traveler that needs some direction and. Good word. Happy Father’s Day!
Frances
Thanks for your inspiration! I fully agree, we have to keep challenging ourselves
Life frequently sends us curveballs–unexpected joys and sorrows. Your approach seems elastic enough to surmount them. I think those of us who are of the retirement age feel marginalized by society. Some people are ‘old’ at 35, others like you remain young–enthusisastic, energetic and eager about life. We all need reminders from time to time about our attitudes—thank you for your comments this morning—-and hope you have a great week painting. I hope to join you next year.
What a wonderful email to read first thing on a Sunday morning. This is an email to keep and aspire to. I’m blessed to finally be retired
and now live in beautiful Lancaster Co. PA. I have met a lovely group of artists through the artist consignment shop (Purple Robin Reserve Lititz, PA) the retirement job that dropped in my lap! Now I understand the inspiration and excitement of being around fellow artists! I’ve dabbled with different mediums all of my life. I have started with watercolor, the most frustrating of all! I take this opportunity to thank your also for your podcast. I search Instagram for the artists after your interview and am bowled over by their stunning work. Thank you for sharing your life philosophy, you’ve laid it out so nicely in the 10 points. The northeast weather has been fabulous the last couple of week..hope it keeps up for your retreat!
A good one today. Keep them coming.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom . Words we can all live by.